Change has to come 

I’m writing this waiting in the emergency room at my local A & E. I am actually shocked at how stretched the services are. I am sitting in a communal room with one man who has had a heart attack another that’s been attacked and a girl who is simply out of it. I am lucky I have been given pain relief and I’m coping but some of these people are not. Yet they have no privacy, no where to be in pain without an audience.

It’s so wrong I’m watching nurses and doctors run themselves ragged and still no where near catching up. 

My heart breaks for the NHS right now. Cameron and his cronies are doing everything in there power to destroy what was once was the pride of Britain. 

I’m sure there hope is to leave us with no choice but to privatise services. Which is the worst thing we can do . How many people in the UK right now cannot afford to eat let alone pay for medical insurance?

Something has to change and we the people need to stand up and say no more. 

This isn’t want the conservatives promised the elective. This is in fact far from the promises they made. They just cannot be trusted anymore. Enough is enough. 
I am simply devestated watching people suffer tonight. 

Simply devestated just like our NHS.

  

Blood, sweat and exposure 

There has been a lot of writing recently regarding PR’s and online newspapers not paying for writers work and I can understand the anger that some people are feeling yet I do actually see both sides of the story. Well maybe a little of one.

I campaign, advocate and fight for a number of causes, I’m desperate for a cure for Rett syndrome. I dream of the day when all children with disabilities are valued in their own right and I fundraise consistently to create memories. For all these I have written numerous articles for free in hope that I can spread the message and raise awareness. In fact exposure is payment enough in cases like this.

Then again I am also one who receives email after email from companies asking me to share their product on my blog, to tweet this information or generally do anything to raise their sales all for the “exposure” I will get. Now this peeves me, they would never ask a manufacturer to build the product for free or for exposure so why ask me to use my time and my words to endorse or sell it for nothing. NOT ON 

I completely understand why bloggers feel totally fed up of PR companies not recognising their worth. Not understanding or ignoring how much time and effort people have put into building their online profile and their blogs. Their value is not appreciated. 

There is nothing worse than receiving an email from a PR or company asking you to promote them only to be told they have no budget. It only rubs salt into the wound when a quick Google search tells you of the immense profit that company has made over the last year. No budget my arse.

Here on my blog I don’t actually do a lot of PR work maybe it’s because I don’t fit a certain profile or maybe it’s because I stand by words. So many times I have replied to an email saying “I’m sorry I cannot promote your product because I have never used it or simply it’s just not something that fits with me, my style or my beliefs. So if I do promote or review something you can guarantee that I use, support or believe in it. 
If I do agree to review something and find out that I don’t like it or it didn’t work for me I will certainly tell you that too. Honestly and openly is the only way I work. 

I do now think it’s time that those who are realising the reach bloggers have also realise their worth. Learn to appreciate the time and effort that goes into writing and give value where due.

Our words matter otherwise why would you want them? 

Guess what I’m giving up this month.

After the yumminess of Pancake day people are chatting about what they are giving up for Lent. 

Some are giving up alcohol some chocolate and some even social media 😳. 

I was thinking about what to give up but just couldn’t pin something down. Giving up sleep seems to be happening but I’m not ready to give that up completely.

So after thinking about this I’ve decided that what I’m giving up for lent is “expectation. ”

I am going to stop having crazy expectations on myself.

Caring for children with severe special needs is exhausting and the adjustment from one to two has been a big shock. I have found myself falling behind with things like the ironing, the cleaning and university work. 

It’s been hard, especially when running on about two hours sleep.

But that’s ok isn’t it, no one expects a new mom to have a perfect house or manicured nails. 

Well no one but me that’s for sure.

You see I set myself stupidly high expectations and berate myself when I cannot reach them. Whilst I am the most understanding supportive friend to others to myself I am the judgemental bitch that needs shutting up.

So for lent this year I am giving up self expectations. 

I am going to stop expecting to keep my house spotless at all times. I am going to enjoy having a new ironing woman who already has become my saviour and throw away the guilt of not pressing the clothes myself. I’m not going to care that cakes are shop bought and not home made.

I’m not going to expect myself to remember everything. I will try hard to remember birthdays, anniversaries but I won’t beat myself up it I forget one now and again.

I will not expect to be writing full time or dedicating hours and hours to this blog or my social media sites. 

I just can’t do it all and that’s ok. 

So here’s a goodbye to expectations for the next 40 days and hopefully a lot longer. 

Here’s to enjoying my new little one without the evil nagging voice in my head telling me I’m failing. 

Here’s to knowing that life isn’t about housework or deadlines.

 It’s about smiles and cuddles.  

A Valentine snapshot

I love photography, sometimes the right shot can speak volumes.

My walls are covered In family photos in fact I have so many that my children describe the living room as a shrine to them.

I just love filling my walls with memories captured on film.

Days out, magic moments and cute adorable smiles.

I can’t tell you how grateful I am now for the many photos I have of Livvy. How I still get to see her mischievous smile and the twinkle in her eyes.

My photos are gifts.

So when thinking of Valentine’s Day and what to get the love of my life what better than a canvas of one of our special moments.

I absolutely love it.

Snapfish canvas 2

Again I am so impressed with the service, quality and speed I get from SNAPFISH. From upload to door in days.

I think it’s just so special and I’m sure Alan will love it too.

Snapfish canvas

So if you are after a Valentines gift or want something special to remember those magical moments. Check out the range of gifts from SNAPFISH the choice is great I’m sure there is something for everyone.

 

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*I was gifted this canvas for the purpose of this review but all opinions and views are my own and I have been a customer of SNAPFISH for many years and always been happy with my products.

There is good 

Have you ever wanted to hide away from the way you feel.

As if your mind cannot actually face what is happening around you. 

I know I have felt this way numerous times. 

When I lost Livvy for sure. I remember the doctor talking to me but I don’t remember the words. I just couldn’t handle what they were saying. 

Sometimes I feel this way about the world, with the news full of war, disease and politics. 

When I hear of heinous things humans are doing to each other.

Hearts broken

Lives taken 

Souls destroyed.

I really don’t get it.

How some can ignore the pain of others?

How can the lives of some hold less value that others.

Its blamed on religion, ethnicity and so much more but to me it’s simple.

It’s wrong.

We are all the same.

We are all one.

If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? 
William Shakespeare

I cannot stay focused on the evil of this world. 
My mind just cannot handle it anymore.

I need to stay focused, more forward and leave the negativity in the past.

There is good in this world and I want to celebrate it. 

I want to fill my heart and my head with the celebrations of life. 

The kind, the happy and the joyful.