Not feeling groovy

After tweeting with the amazing Kate @kateonthinice I decided I was going to blog and be totally honest. As yes we all do have moments, days and weeks that simply suck.

This is mine.

I have been fighting a stomach virus for the last week which drs believe is now mostly due to my immune system going haywire.

I ache all over and to be honest are having the period from hell (she didn’t just mention the monthly thing did she). Oh yes I did that crappy monthly thing that curses woman of a certain age is driving me insane and leaving me in pain.

The thing is I simply don’t have time to be ill. I have a life to lead and things to do.

How dare sickness invade my carefully laid plans.

To be honest I think this is where my real problem lies.

I love it “when a plan comes together” but fall apart when my plans get messed up.

Today I should have been having a lovely lunch with my stepmom. Wandering around the garden centre and having a general catch up.

But instead I am stuck at home feeling generally sorry for myself and whinging to anybody that will listen.

So yes instead of being a groovy mum today I am simply a miserable one.


It’s not where you come from.

It not where you come from it’s where you belong.

I listened to this song the other day and I just fell apart. The words hit my heart and like a dam breaking inside of me the tears began to fall.

Journeying through life isn’t easy but it’s a lot harder when you don’t have the basic support structure behind you.

Family, friends, community.

These are what guides you and lifts you through the struggles of life.

Yes they may be times when one to two of these break but then hopefully the others step up and fill the gap.

Yet as a foster carer I know that sometimes this structure completely falls apart. For various reasons children find themselves in…

Need of a home.


Need of a family.


Need of friends

and In

Need of a community.

My heart has broken listening to stories of kids growing up not knowing where they will be tomorrow.

Children scared of making friends because tomorrow they may be somewhere else.

This is why I love my job.

I get to be that structure for a child in need.

I get to love upon and help them to understand that they are loved.

Teach them that they deserve love and most of all they are safe.

I get to be family,friends and community to a child in need.

Each day children are taken into care and the need for foster carers has risen dramatically over the years.

It’s not an easy job, time after time you will find yourself being rejected.

But it’s not about you.

It’s about a child .

A child whose world had changed.

A child who is scared to trust.

A child in fear.

Yet being a foster carer is also one of the best jobs in the world.

You get to change a child’s life.

You get to make a difference.

What could be more amazing than that?

Its not where you come from it’s where you belong.





Giving my child a voice – MyChoicePad

Writing this blog over the last years has allowed me to experience opportunities that have given me wonderful memories. It has also allowed me to review things that have really made a difference to my life but nothing has really come close to making a such an impact like this item I wish to share with you.

This has given my foster son a voice.

When our kids are born we wait excitingly for their first words yet for a number of children these words don’t come.

Now this could be for a variety of reasons including shock and trauma but for the most part it is because of a disability.

This is the category my foster son falls into. Due to a learning disability he has no real communication.

So when approached by Insane Logic the creators of the communication tool MYchoicePad to review this educational  app I was super excited.

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Disabled children can use a number of ways to communicate including verbal language, sign language and communication symbols.  This app offers them the chance to use all three.

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Within the app You build grids in which the child structures a sentence from. The MyChoicePad Pro offers a wealth of vocabulary which can be personalised to the needs of the user. The package offers over 4000 makaton symbols.

You can build grids specifically to the child’s interests and activities.


A sentence is formed with Makaton symbols which the child then plays out verbally.

This allows the child to communicate with both those who understand Makaton and those that don’t.

One of the added bonus of this app has been the videos that accompany the makaton symbols. These videos are essential in helping you and your child use and learn makaton signs.

See it, hear it, sign it.

The reach of this app is endless and that is why it is already being used by speech and language professionals across the UK.

With this app

A child can tell you how they are feeling.


Their favourite foods.

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What they have learned at school.

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Seriously the scope is incredible.

Personally for me this app really became priceless when my foster son told me this…

The look of joy on his face to be able to share his feelings and for me to understand them was incredible.

Now after years of looking into communication aids for my late daughter Livvy I was well aware of the cost involved. So imagine my surprise and joy when I found out that the pro version could be downloaded for a price of £129.99  this is simply amazing.

Truthfully I feel as if I am only touching the surface of what this app has to offer.

Please check out the MyChoicePad website and contact any of the staff. You will find them willing to walk you through anything and everything. They also offer different packages and training.

Seriously I am so impressed with MyChoicePad and happily recommend it.

MyChoicePad is currently available for Apple iPad. An Android version will release in Spring 2014.

MyChoicePad is free to download and includes Stage 1 of Makatons Core Vocabulary. MyChoicePad Pro, which includes over 4000 Makaton concepts and aimed at professional organisations, can be purchased for £129.99.







Because thats who I am.

I was lying in bed last night and thinking about my blog when suddenly I was filled with fear. I realized that I was sharing my heart open and honest to anyone who wishes to read it.

Its like walking up a stranger in a shop and telling them my deepest darkest feelings

I wondered if I actually had got it before, really understood what I am doing when I allow my fingers to roam the keyboard and click the button saying publish.

Its a strange feeling knowing that someone you have never met knows your heart.

For a couple of minutes I actually thought twice.

Maybe its time to stop blogging.

Maybe I should start filtering my feelings, censoring my words.

Then after a while I began to wonder why?

Why do I need to hide who I truly am?

So what if strangers have read my words, in fact i am actually glad they have. Maybe one person has heard my heart and knows that they are not alone.

Sometimes the gift of company is all you need to face the day.

Knowing that tomorrow will come and somehow you will survive.

Understanding that everyone everywhere has a journey they need to take.

That we all get lost and lose our way.

Accepting that life is lousy at times.

We hurt, we ache and sometimes we break.

This blog is my heart and yes at times I may over share but who cares?

I have finally learned something,

Really understood something I should have always known.

Being me is ok, 

The ups and downs they make me who I am

And who I am is pretty awesome over sharing and all.

So there will be no filtering no censorship just pure raw Sara.

It may get messy.

But it will always be true.

Because thats who I am.


Speak life

I watched this video yesterday and loved it . The message is so simple and so true.

Words can heal.

Words can wound.

Words can make a day brighter.

Words can surround one in darkness.

Words can build one up.

Words can tear one down.

Words spoken.

Words typed.

Words in any form are powerful.

Choose your words carefully


Choose to speak life.




Yummy yummy yogart.

A few months ago I reviewed the flavoured coffee from Beanies coffee and whilst I personally came to the decision I am a straight lace coffee drinker I was happy when they returned to ask me to review there new yogart range.

My kids love yogurt and between them they get through over 16 tups per week. So the idea of being able to make our own homemade yogart was pretty exciting (yes I do need to get out more).
Beanies sent me the yogart starter kit which included 6 flavours and the Beanie yogurt maker.

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Now it’s well know that at times the kitchen and I are at war so I was a little worried about what making yogart entailed.
Well let me tell you in was so simple.

First you place the mixture in a bowl.


You mix the powder with water.


Then place in the yogurt maker and 8 hours later you have yogurt.


Seriously it’s as simple as that !
Now the real important part how does it taste.
Seriously yummy.
My girls so far have tried the vanilla to which they added different fruits and the strawberry and loved both .
The yogurt is smooth and fresh tasting without the overpowering tartness that some have.
The yogurt when made up lasts for about a week in the fridge. Well it is supposed to but didn’t last that long here.
To be honest before this review I would have never considered making my own yogart nor would I have believed how easy it.

Why don’t you give it a try.


*I was given the yogart starter kit to review but all opinions are my own.

She who should not be named.

Over the last months one name has been showing up all over the media and social networks. Katie Hopkins, columnist, reality tv star and a general big mouth.

She has opinions on everything and anything and is quite happy to voice them especially if they cause controversy and upset. Or should that be especially if it will gain her more exposure.

Well enough is enough, I think it is about time people stopped playing into her game and stop mentioning her name even when disagreeing with what she has to say.

Let’s be honest if this woman was to be paid per google search I’m sure she would now be a very wealthy woman.

Every time she speaks out she gets asks on to television to air her view even when too be honest she certainly doesn’t deserve air time.

She is rude and obnoxious and has no respect for those that don’t agree with her.

Now I believe everyone is entitled to their personal view. Yet when it is insulting and derogatory to others it’s certainly shouldn’t be given paid opportunities to be aired.

So I suggest we start our own campaign against this women. It’s doesn’t involve calling her names though she certainly doesn’t hold back in this. What it does though is to stop her gaining more coverage for own agendas.

So from now on Katie Hopkins you have joined the ranks of Voldemort.

You will now be known as “she who should not be named”.

Let’s stop using this woman’s name and giving her the coverage she so desires.


How much is too much?

So I’ve been reading in the news about the idea being put forward for longer school days to allow parents to work without child care and also to educate and guide children better.

I can relate to some of the issues raised but I know for me there is no chance. If this became manatory I would be homeschooling my girls for sure.

Only a few days ago I had a conversation with my youngest about slowing down. She is a member of three sports teams a choir and theatre group. She also undertakes a singing lesson and extra literature credits and that’s before church group and church youth.

I barely get to see her in the week by the time she returns from school she eats her dinner and is off to another activity only to come home shower and bed.

Now many will tell me she is living a very fulfilling life and is lucky to be able to access all these opportunities but personally I think she is doing too much.

In fact I feel so strongly about it that we had a discussion about only doing what we really enjoy and not signing up just because a teacher asked her to.

Well the chat didn’t go so well but she did confess she was rather tired and agreed to think hard on it for me.

What is too much though?

Isn’t five hours a day at school enough? Then of course you add in the other hour of homework when are kids supposed to get down time?

I don’t want my daughter to feel tired and stressed all the time. I want her to have time to read, chill and just relax.

Do you guys agree?

Or am I worrying for no reason?

How much is too much?